Durham Coho is proud to have been selected to receive a 2014 Golden Leaf Award, thanks to a nomination from our architects Ellen Weinstein and Ken Friedlein. http://www.wfarchitecture.com/
This is a big win, given we were in the toughest category of "large development," with 7 submittals from such entities as Duke University and the Durham Bulls Park. I like to think the judges took into account our creativity and community-building. We purchased an infill-lot last used for a tire service shop that required environmental clean up. The half-acre lot is now home to our 4-story intentional community of 37 cohousers. We are arguably part of downtown Durham’s revitalization; we enjoy the abundant opportunities to be part of a re-emerging neighborhood of local food restaurants, a central park and farmers market, and music venues.
This entry continues a series in which I'm exploring concepts encapsulated in a set of 91 cards called Group Works, developed by Tree Bressen, Dave Pollard, and Sue Woehrlin. The deck represents "A Pattern Language for Bringing Life to Meetings and Other Gatherings."
....Critical awareness and transparency around existing power differences can, if held well, allow the group to adapt authority structures to best reflect their values or serve their aims. Sharing power isn't always easy, but the rewards for groups who do so can be profound....
Off my usual topic of governance but this was a response to a question from a new community that I thought might be helpful to all new communities, and some settled ones. What should we buy of the kitchen? A new community will have lots of donations, particularly if they put out the call for things as people anticipate downsizing. People who haven't moved in many years will have lots of extra stuff. Look for "Professional Quality" or "Professional Grade" to find the best products for large group cooking. Find a store that chiefly sells to designers, contractors, building managers, and architects because they will have a full line of products and will be more honest and knowledgable because their business is volume and return customers. Don't expect the tableware to match. Design a place where appliances can be both stored and used.
I received this email from Leah Fisher in response to my opening "Alleviating Fear" article in Cohousing Now! eNews (#71, 10/28/14). Leah makes a compelling case for "fear of regret" as a stumbling block in committing to cohousing, and suggests, "Support for dealing effectively with these concerns could be of great value to prospective members."
I was very drawn to your article about Fear related to co-housing, but I would like to suggest a more fundamental fear that I understand as a psychotherapist and that I experience personally with regard to co-housing. It is this: Fear of Regret. [please read more]
Re-posted from eNews: Cohousing Now #71 Alleviating Fear
I was struck by Marilynne Robinson's assertion in a recent issue of NY Times Magazine (10/5/14): "Fear has, in this moment, a respectability I've never seen in my life." She was referring to what she thinks is a "default posture" of human beings: fear. This recalled for me a presentation at Shadowlake Village that included a slide on safety. I thought: how smart to address, our "default" concern of navigating a dangerous world. Fear may be the motivator for questions among those seeking cohousing: is it safe? can I feel secure? We are all looking to alleviate fears and live in a safe and secure environment. [read more]
I'm currently immersed in four days of FIC organizational meetings, where a key focus has been how to make better connections with others trying to build cooperative culture. Essentially, those of us with deep familiarity in community living believe that we're learning something in the crucible of that experience that has wide application—in neighborhoods, in the workplace, in schools, and in churches—yet we're frustrated with the lack of invitations to share what we know. What's going on?
Last week in Nevada City, a team of over 20 attendees – having traveled from as far away as Brazil – participated in a week-long workshop on Aging Successfully in senior cohousing. The concept stems from a workshop in Denmark that is designed to set seniors up for success, called Study Group One. The approach is outlined in Charles Durrett’s book, Senior Cohousing: A Community Approach to Independent Living. Participants included development professionals, architects and people who are already working on or want to start their own cohousing communities.
What a great community we have at Silver Sage Village!
And if anyone asks about how many it takes to boil a lobster ... the answer is simple: It takes a village to boil a lobster at least the village at Silver Sage. When we started to plan on Monday for the Lobster Boil ... many knew it would be fun! Yet I think the "adventure" of the entire evening with everyone contributing AND enjoying either "handling", cooking or even avoiding the crustaceans made our gathering FUN for all but the dozen lobsters!