Category: Creating-relationships


Building Trust – Part 4

Trust through Conflict Trust comes in many forms and layers. Some trust is about believing someone will do the thing they said they would do. Sometimes trust is about believing they will behave toward me in a certain way – perhaps with kindness or generosity. Sometimes we event find stability in trusting that a person... Read More

Building Trust, Part 3

Trust Through Crisis Everyone’s least favorite way to build trust in a group is a shared experience of crisis, which doesn’t stop it from being highly effective.  The classic case is surviving a natural disaster together. Total strangers grab on to each other in a storm, survive the night, and by morning are friends for... Read More

Building Trust, Part 2

Intentional Trust While building trust through everyday habits is effective, it takes time. Many communities want ways to build trust faster. I don’t believe anything can replace the small stuff, but I do think you can accelerate the process with intentional practices designed for trust building.  These intentional practices range from full weekend retreats to... Read More

Building Trust, Part 1

How do we build trust?  It’s a common question, both from communities experiencing a lack of trust (which often appears as conflict) and from forming communities wishing to foster trust.  I often tell my client communities that trust (and mis-trust) is built in 1000 small moments and a couple of big ones. Or to say... Read More

A Simple Tool for Powerful Communication

Karen Gimnig, Imago Facilitator and co-author of ’The Cooperative Culture Handbook’, led a large workshop  of Washington Commons’ members and Explorers interested in building community and deepening our connection to one another. Karen asked each of us to write 10 responses to the prompt, “Our vision is realized, we have moved into our new homes, and... Read More

Using CohoUS Videos

I joined Driftwood about two years ago at a time when the group had been formed, land bought, and consultants and architects hired.  I found myself frustrated with our monthly General Meetings because I always wanted more exploration of the ways other communities had done things and the meanings of different choices. There simply wasn’t... Read More

What is Friday Forum?

Friday Forum (FF) is a group that meets every other Friday for approximately one and a half hours.  Its purpose is to provide members a place to reveal and discuss their personal cares and concerns. To keep it from becoming just any group, where people chitty-chat, interrupt, dominate, tell long narratives that deal with things... Read More

WebChat #20 New Member Orientation

Sarah Ross and Mary King of We Can Work It Out joined us for our twentieth webchat sharing tips and strategies of new member orientation in forming and established communities. They explained that new member orientation has 4 primary objectives: • To welcome new members • To protect, preserve and pass on community culture •... Read More

What should a forming group ….get a good plan for NOW?”

Grace Kim responded to a query on cohousing-l to “cohousing veterans:” “What should we (a forming group) be worried about / work out in advance / get a good plan for NOW?” I’ll preface my advice with the fact that I am an architect, but also a founding member of an urban cohousing group in... Read More