Fantasy vs Reality

2020 Cohousing Open 

Session Notes

 

ROOM 3

Time Slot 1 (10:40PDT, 11:40MDT, 12:40CDT, 1:40EDT)



Title of session:  Fantasy vs. Reality

 

Convenor:  Jennie Lindberg

 

Who participated:  Lexi, Ljuba, Kyle, Trudy, Jennie

 

Key Points & Actions:   

  • Challenges at Fair Oaks
    • Came in knowing everyone’s name, but not too much more
    • Interpersonal, communication challenges
    • Still better during covid than without cohousing
    • New people moving in expecting everything to be done just right, fixed, 
    • Everyone is looking to someone else for how to do things
    • Possibly due to lack of strong governance, confusion about expectations of committees. 
  • Advice
    • Don’t just make rules. You need to work on relationships
    • “Conflict resolution team”
    • “Community support team”
    • Do the work to onboard and orient new people to the mores of cohousing
    • It can be hard to maintain the group cohesion while you’re so busy building the housing. Not enough for folks who’ve come later. 
  • Bringing new people on
    • They’re assigned a guide, told to read the bylaws, meeting everyone in the community. 
    • Getting lighter on requirements b/c of a desire to get the last of the units sold. Probably a bad idea.
    • Examples of ways for vetting people: personal essay, required to join committees, disciplined about finding the right people